You don’t dodge difficult discussions
When you can discuss tough topics like kids, religion, sex, and politics, you have a solid foundation for a future together. “Two-way communication is central to any viable marriage or relationship,” says Stacey Laura Lloyd, a dating, relationships and wellness writer. “When you and your partner can openly, honestly, and candidly discuss anything—and no topic is taboo—the bonds between the two of you are continuously strengthened.” Lloyd says that if you can’t talk about difficult topics, it’s only a matter of time before this prohibition ultimately undermines all your communications. “Every relationship comes with challenges and difficult conversations,” says Megan Costello, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in Los Angeles. “It’s how you navigate these discussions that really matters. Listen with empathy and strive to recognize strengths in your partner during conversations about difficult topics.”
You don’t want him to change
“Oftentimes the very qualities that attracted you to someone can repel you later,” says Andrea Syrtash, relationship expert and author of Cheat on Your Husband (with Your Husband): How to Date Your Spouse. “For instance, you may have originally loved that your husband was so fun and spontaneous. Now, you may complain that he never plans anything in advance!” In good relationships, you’re not secretly hoping he’ll drink less, make more money, or have six-pack abs. Syrtash suggests that you try remember what endeared you to him in the first place—instead of trying to change him.
You trust one another
If you’re in a solid and strong relationship, you have no problem with her going out with the girls on a Friday night. “Trust and respect are the foundation of any healthy relationship,” Syrtash says. “Without them, it won’t work.” You know he’d never do anything to betray your trust or something that would hurt you. You have one another’s backs and don’t keep secrets. These 11 signs mean you can trust your partner.